Hello, Master, I have a difficult question to talk about. I hope my question will not be laughed at me. I am very serious about asking this question.
I am a high school student. I like to participate in this Buddhist activities and some social volunteer work, but I know that I am a standard homosexual. Simply put, I am not interested in girls, but whenever I see a boy, my heart becomes confused. There are several times when I want to participate in some short-term monk activities organized by Buddhist temples, but I am very afraid that if I participate, I will make me restless. I know that I have a very strong desire. No one in the class knows that I am homosexual, but I like some male classmates very much.I was in such a pain. Even though I knew it was not possible, I didn't want to be a gay person. I was so confused.It is also the good roots of the past. Three years ago, I decided to become a monk in the future. For some reason, I always wanted to become a monk. I think it was very attractive to become a monk, but I also thought that after becoming a monk, they were all male monks together. I was so afraid that I would think randomly all day long.I feel that I am really serious. When attending some Buddhist and Buddhist chanting sessions, the men and men's dormitories are usually together, and I often think about it.A while ago, I heard a monk on TV saying that homosexuals should not become monks, alas ~My ideal of becoming a monk in the future will also be shattered.I don't want to be gay...what should I do?
A Ping
Answer to Mr. Aping:
Since I became a monk, 6 or 7 homosexual Buddhists have asked me about homosexuality.Some call to ask, and some ask in person.Among them, there are men and women.Many years ago, I wrote an article about it ──Is it a male or female?The article is collected in my work: "Looking at Life from Buddhism".You might as well go and find it.
Society believes that there are two types of homosexuality: fake homosexuality and real homosexuality.Fake homosexuality can be changed, but true homosexuality has no way to change it.Because true homosexuals have not changed their ways, they are destined to be like this when they are born, which is not what they wish.Therefore, in recent years, most sectors of society have accepted the existence of homosexuality, so you don’t have to be too sad.
The comparison question is: At the age of a high school student, you have such a strong desire, which is worrying.Is it caused by the environment? Or is it precocious? This problem must be solved.
Homosexuals cannot become monks in Buddhism, because there are clear regulations on the precepts.
As for homosexuality ──Can true homosexuality be changed? In terms of Buddhism, it should be possible.
Last year, I only taught a gay man, including the issue of lust.On the phone, he seemed to have a sense of understanding. He hadn't received a call from him for two months and seemed to no longer worry about homosexuality.
Huiguang
Master:
Thank you for your advice.I am not fake gay, I am really gay, because even if a woman takes off all her clothes in front of me, I will not have any lust, or even likes or dislikes.But if a man takes off his shirt, I will...ah...
Once I saw a master on TV saying: Homosexuals have been carrying too much lust and abnormality in life.Alas, maybe, maybe it’s because I’ve had too much lust for my lifetime, alas, I feel so uncomfortable.I'm leaving a message here now. To be honest, I'm a little contaminated with this good message board, it's all my fault.Master, why I was born in high school, because I was so erotic? Actually, I don’t know. Maybe when I was a child, my home opened a hostel, and the hostel often had to show some adult movies for guests to see [Note: Retribution]. I remember that when I was very young, I was about five years old, I often saw some lustful movies. In addition, I was in China and I liked boys since I was a child.I really don't want to be gay...
Master, please leave me a message below. You tell me that if true homosexuality can be changed according to Buddhism, how can we change it? Can you please help me solve my doubts?
A Ping
Answer to Mr. Aping:
When you were a child, you opened a hostel at home, and the hostel often had to show some adult movies for guests to watch.I remember that when I was very young, about five years old, I often saw some lustful movies.
This environment leads to precocious puberty, and primary school students will like it... and it is different from ordinary people, which is homosexual.A Buddhist mantra: It’s really a serious karma.Repent well.
Fortunately, you still have the fate of planting Buddha and can believe in Buddhism.
How to transform homosexuality into normal heterosexuality? In the secular world, it is unlikely.Because, the genes in the body of homosexuals are different from those of normal people, and they are born like this, not what he wants to do.
How does Buddhism transform homosexuality? In principle, it can be discussed, but the details are difficult to describe in detail here.
1、You must think and observe, and then understand that desire is only temporary.Now because you are young and have a strong hormone secretion in your body, you are excited and like the opposite sex very much ﹝homosexual ﹞,One day, when you get old or sick, your body becomes weak, and the hormones of lust are no longer secreted, you will no longer like the opposite sex, and you will even hate the opposite sex.
It can be seen that the world is impermanent and not worth pursuing.All seeking is hard, and you have to pay a lot of hard work, but you don’t know that what you like will one day become dislike and become annoying.In life, you should have higher pursuits and don’t indulge in lust.
2、With higher goals in life, you will not be troubled and painful because you are homosexual and different from others, and your excitement will also decrease.It is said that there is an inventor in the West, who is Edison or someone, who is homosexual.He never married in his life, devoted himself to research, and contributed a lot to mankind.No one knew he was gay and only discovered it in his diary after his death.
Therefore, if you should have other ambitions or pleasures, you will not be bound or suffered by homosexual karma.
3、Your ability to come into contact with Buddhism and then study and practice is a great opportunity for you to transform into homosexuality.You don’t have to become a monk. As long as you have the heart and overcome difficulties, practicing at home has its benefits.
Buddhism is to turn the impossible into possible, transcend the acquired nature and enter the innate world, transcend men and women, and enter the original state of neither men nor women.You said, can homosexuality change? Of course.
Why do you think you are a man or a woman? Men and women are just acquired illusions.This life is a man, the previous life may be a woman, and the next life may be born as a woman; similarly, this life is a woman, and it is said that she will be born as a man in the next life.
Therefore, men and women are just temporary illusions in the cycle of reincarnation of sentient beings. In the ultimate truth of human beings, how can there be the appearance of men and women? The true nature of human beings is right and wrong, not men and not women.Why don’t you go back here and indulge in the illusion of men and women and suffer from homosexuality?.........,
Speaking of this, do you understand? It means that you must succeed through the practice of Buddhism and practice, and you can transcend the acquired appearance of men and women.If you don’t have a male or female appearance in your heart, you won’t like the opposite sex or the same sex.
Of course, this is not very easy.This is a revolution of self-spiritual life and a great project.But just do it and you have a chance to arrive.Wish you a blessing!
Huiguang
Hello, Master:
Thank you for your teachings, I understand.But at this time, the disciple still had a small question in his mind.People in this situation cannot become monks, but disciples always want to become monks. So if they go to become monks and take precepts, as long as they don’t live with monks, is this okay? If not, then I will really have no hope of wanting to go out of monks in this life? After becoming a monk and taking the three great precepts, can I leave the monastic community and practice alone?
A Ping
Answer to Mr. Aping:
If you want to become a monk, it is also your good root. If the cause and condition is ripe, I believe that you can achieve your wish.
Although becoming a monk is of great help to practice and practice the path to liberation, in order to maintain Buddhism and the monastic community, Buddhism also stipulates that some people cannot become monks.
Even if you don’t care about others, it will cause great trouble for yourself.When you become a monk and receive the Three Altars of Precepts, you have one or two months to live with the same-sex people. For you, it is like a normal adult living and sleeping with the opposite sex.What kind of torment will you feel in your heart! And, it will last for a month or two.Can you bear your lust?
So, even if there is a mage who doesn’t know that you are homosexual, but will ordain you, let you become a monk, or if there is a mage who knows that you are homosexual, but will still ordain you.You have become a monk, but have your problem been solved? No! Your troubles have just begun.
Because, becoming a monk is separated from the desires of men and women.Normal people, men and women are separated, and they are not clear and easy to overcome; but you are different. As a man, you like men in your heart, and you are inevitably with men in your life.Can you be calm in your heart? If you can't, will your life be better if you become a monk?
You will feel that becoming a monk is more troublesome than being at home.In this way, how long can you become a monk?
It can be seen that Buddhism stipulates that some people are not allowed to become monks. In addition to protecting the Buddhist monastic community, aren’t they also protecting the parties involved?,
Of course, after becoming a monk, you can leave the monastic community and live alone to practice.However, this must be done after you have a considerable foundation in Buddhism and practice.Otherwise, there will be troubles.
Therefore, if you must become a monk, you must practice and change your mind at home. After you become a monk, your problems will no longer cause trouble.In this way, becoming a monk will be beneficial to you.
It is actually very easy to become a monk. As long as you don’t tell your master, you are homosexual and your master doesn’t know, he will slaughter you.The question is: Is it good for you to become a monk like this? Becoming a monk is not as you imagined, and the problem will be solved after becoming a monk.No.If your problem is not solved, you should also seek solutions after becoming a monk.
Huiguang
Thank you Master for your teachings, thank you Master, I think I understand.I've been here to trouble you these days. Thank you very much, Master.
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