How to observe the heart and answers - improve the ability to avoid sex

This post is my summary of observing the mind and breaking thoughts. The content of the post is mainly from Brother Feixiang’s article about abstinence, which also contains my thoughts. This post mainly presents the discussion on observing the mind and breaking thoughts in various seasons of Feixiang Ge’s articles in a relatively systematic way. I believe that it is helpful for both a novice who can't observe the mind and stop thinking, or a veteran who can already observe the mind and stop thinking.

1，What is a thought?

Thoughts can also be said to be our thoughts and ideas.

Now let’s explain it through a common example: the weather is so good today, with cloudless and clear sky (two or three thoughts passed), what should I eat today? Meat buns or steamed buns. Do you want a cup of soy milk? (Two or three thoughts passed again), and suddenly I remembered that I was going to take the exam today. What should I do? Haven't reviewed yet……

The above are the thoughts of us normal people. Thoughts can also be said to be psychological activities. Just like someone is talking in his heart, we can only develop the following content after understanding the thoughts.

2，What is observing the mind?

The mind is a thought, and observing the mind is to watch one's own thoughts. Usually, our attention is always focused on the outside, and we have never carefully observed our psychological activities. We must know that thoughts lead to behavior. If bad thoughts are not cut off, bad behavior will occur. For example: Sometimes there is the idea of ​​going out for travel in our minds, and thoughts lead to behavior. If we follow this idea, it will lead to the result of traveling. Of course, we may not necessarily follow this idea.

3，What is thought-breaking?

Observing the mind is the basis for stopping thoughts. Only by having the ability to observe thoughts can we stop thinking. To cut off thoughts is to cut off thoughts. The psychological activities of ordinary people are constantly moving. If you can reflect on your own mind and shout "cut", in an instant, all thoughts disappear and your mind is very pure. This is to cut off thoughts. There is another meaning to stop thinking: if you don’t follow, you will stop! Just like the example mentioned in the second question, if we do not obey the idea of ​​going to travel, the idea will disappear by itself, and this is a cessation. Another example: When we meet someone who sells products, if we ignore him, he will walk away and will not bother you again ； On the contrary, if the verbal loosens, the salesman will be endless until you pay. I hope everyone can understand the principle of quitting thoughts by using the above example.

4，What is the formula for stopping the fantasy?

That is, "When the thought arises, it will be cut off, and when the thought arises, it will be awakened, and when the thought is awakened, it will be gone. ”Four sentences are the mantras that Brother Feixiang, the master of the big bar, extracted from the method of cultivating the mind of Buddhism.

How to use (very important): Memorize this formula at least 500 times a day, the more the better. You can recite it in a voice or silently. My experience is that after memorizing this formula for a while, the fantasy will be like lightning, and the fantasy will be cut off in an instant. Moreover, by memorizing this formula, you can slowly learn to observe your mind.

A brief explanation of the formula:

When the thought arises, it will be cut off immediately: when the evil thoughts come together, it will be cut off immediately.

If the thought arises, do not follow: if the evil thought arises, do not follow. If the thought does not follow, it means to be cut off.

When thoughts arise, they will be awakened, and when they are awakened, they will disappear: when evil thoughts come together, they will immediately realize them, and the thoughts will disappear. It’s like a thief entering the house, and as soon as the master comes back, the thief runs away immediately. The master is our awareness, and the thief is evil thoughts. These two sentences are the core of these four sentences, and the core is the word "aware".

5，What is awareness?

Awareness is the "thing" that can see our inner activities. The thoughts are not the real self, the real self is the "observer". It is easy to understand for a metaphor: awareness is like a mirror, and thoughts are like shadows in the mirror.

6，How to practice observing the mind?

As mentioned above, it is to memorize the formula of sexual fantasy. After memorizing it for a period of time, you can learn to observe the mind and stop thinking. Everyone must not be lazy, but must memorize the formula well. My experience is: I memorize it 800 times a day and persist for more than 40 days before I learn to observe the mind and stop thinking. This time is related to personal understanding and effort (the number of times I memorize the fantasy formula), but as long as I keep working hard, I will learn it one day. After learning to stop chanting, you still have to memorize the formulas every day and practice in actual combat.

7，What's the use of observing the mind?

I can say that only by learning to observe your mind can you live out your "real self". If you don’t consider the distance, observing the mind is also very important for abstaining from fantasy. Moreover, after learning to control thoughts through observing the mind, you will not be lost in the flow of thoughts. Some friends are troubled by random thoughts. Learning to observe the mind and stop thinking can solve this problem well.

8，What is mind cultivation?

Cultivating the mind means cultivating thoughts, and learning to control one's own thoughts. By maintaining observation of thoughts, let good thoughts pass, and bad thoughts stop (various thoughts that will lead to breaking precepts, etc.), we will not be controlled by thoughts and can truly become a "free person".

9，After learning to observe your mind, will you still move upward?

Some are to discover the "real self". We have already discussed that the idea is not the real self, and that "observer" is. And what is that "observer" like?

Eight words summarized: No thought arises, and it is clear and clear. It is a state of "no thought, but clearly knowing". Usually when we are in a daze, we will enter this state when we are suddenly photographed or sneezed. However, we ordinary people, if we don’t understand how long this state is, we are swept away by thoughts again.

10，What is the relationship between thoughts and "real self"?

Similar to the relationship between water and waves, the "real self" is "water" and the thought is "wave". For another example, if you make a piece of gold into a human form, the "human form" is the idea, and the "gold" is the "real self".

11，What is the relationship between awareness and "real self"?

I asked Brother Feixiang this question, and he told me that it was the relationship between "fire and heat". (Pure awareness is the true self, it is the duality of emptiness and awareness)

12，How to settle in your “real self”?

When the thoughts come together (no matter what thoughts it is), immediately become aware (that is, not following the thoughts), the thoughts disappear, and then the "true self" will appear. Only by constantly aware of the practice of breaking thoughts can one be more comfortable to stay in the "true self".

13,What are the manifestations of evil thoughts?

There are generally three types. 1. Sound ； 2. Image ； 3. A subtle feeling. The first one is like someone talking in your head ； The second type is that the pictures suddenly appear in your mind, which are usually yellow content you have seen. Among the three evil thoughts, the second one appears the fastest. But the third type is the most terrifying thing. I often see friends who are chasing say, "I broke the precepts for no reason," because I did not realize the manifestation of this third evil thought. Usually when others are staring at us, we will have feelings. This "subtle feeling" is the inner demon staring at us. For this type of evil thought, you can only rely on constantly practicing observing the mind and breaking the thoughts and firmly watching one's own thoughts. When the "subtle feeling" comes, you will be highly vigilant. The taste can only be experienced slowly by relying on you in actual combat.

14,Are the appearance of evil thoughts characterized?

have. Generally, when you are bored, alone, or in a bad mood, evil thoughts will easily emerge and lure you to break the precepts. Brother Feixiang once summarized 56 types of breaking the precepts (in the 60th season of the 60th season of the quit, I think every quit friend should check it out every day because it is a high-voltage line for quitting sex. In that situation, evil thoughts are easy to emerge.

15,What types of evil thoughts are there?

Common ones are: yy、 Instigate (see pornography, try concentration, test sexual function, last time, etc.), doubt (such as poor abstinence, etc., by learning the knowledge of abstinence, you can cure these evil thoughts), negative emotions (negative emotions are also considered evil thoughts, and can also lead to breaking the precepts), etc.

16,Is there any secret to stop evil thoughts?

Yes, it means "be careful at the beginning", and evil thoughts will be eliminated immediately. Just like the duel of the cowboys in the West, whoever draws the gun slowly will die. The martial arts of the world are only fast and slow!

17,What details in daily life can reduce your awareness of the mind?

One is posture. Evil thoughts are prone to appear when sitting or lying. At this time, stand up immediately and you can restore 100% control over your heart. This detail is mentioned in Brother Feixiang’s article. In addition, I would like to share two of my own experiences. One is that eating too much at night will also reduce your control over your heart. Since ancient times, there has been a saying in China that "eat well in the morning, eat enough in the afternoon, and eat less in the evening". Eating too much supper is not conducive to abstaining from sex, nor is it conducive to health preservation. In addition, it is because it takes too long to surf the Internet and sit for a long time. If you look at the computer or mobile phone screen for too long, it will consume your energy. When you are not in good spirits, your control over your heart will also be reduced. I hope everyone will quit sitting for a long time. Sitting for a long time is also not conducive to health preservation.

18,I cut off my evil thoughts, but when I see "those things" (pictures of the edges, beauties on the street, etc.) I can't do it. What should I do?

This is the actual battle against the environment. Although the realm is seducing you outside, as long as you don’t have evil thoughts, you are still an open and honest man. Therefore, the fundamental thing in the actual situation of the situation is to focus on one's own thoughts and eliminate evil thoughts. But then again, in addition to practicing in the minds and minds, the outside world also needs to take precautions. Two methods: First, look away and don't look at the second ； 2. Maintain a state of astigmatism. Astigmatism means that the pupils are in a state of unfocused concentration, as if they are looking everywhere, but they are not looking anywhere, which is a bit similar to the line of sight when they are in a daze. If you don't understand it yet, I will teach you a way, which is to not look at objects and focus your attention in the air. For example, if there is a beauty 20 meters away, you can just stare at the air in front of you, which is also OK.

Summary: If you want to improve your ability to avoid sex, you can only continue to learn and practice. I suggest that friends who feel that they are not good at observing their minds and stopping their thoughts are memorizing the formula for sexual misconceptions more than 500 times a day and try it for a while. I can't understand this article for a while, so I can bookmark it and read it several times. In addition, if you want to better master the technique of observing the mind and breaking thoughts, I recommend everyone to read the Feixiang Experience Season 99 and 102.