【Don't get into a devil] completely abstain from sex for 189 days, and talk about what it means to observe the mind and stop thinking

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189God, this number of days is not the most I have quit, but I see hope for success. It's calm.

189Oh my God, during this period, I have no feeling of torment and no desire to appear, don't mention h No, I haven't even seen the beauty on the road, and my body has been greatly recovered. In the past, I had to rest after playing basketball for a while, but after quitting, I was still full of energy after playing for a few hours. In the past, I was tired after studying for a while. After quitting, I still persisted in studying for a whole day. In the past, I always quit my condition getting worse and worse, as if the vicious circle of breaking the precepts was pulling me back, just like Zuma who I played when I was a child. This time I was different from before. This time I have always maintained a good state of abstinence. Even after the end of the exam in school, others went back to the dormitory to play games, and I could still calm down and go to the empty study room to study.

In the past, the holiday was broken as soon as I got home, but when I got home during this winter vacation, I was filial to my parents from the bottom of my heart and understand them, and still maintained a good state of abstinence every day. All these signs have given me the hope of success in quitting sex. I think we can definitely return to the true pure self. I can do this because I have truly learned the most core thing in the quit sex, observing the mind and cutting off thoughts.

Many people think that they can observe the mind and stop thinking, but is it really necessary? The power of true observing the mind and stopping thoughts is exaggerated. As long as you master the key points and practice hard, you can not only quit sex, but also quit playing mobile phones, quit staying in bed, and quit playing games. Because thoughts are the forerunner of behavior, as long as you control your thoughts, you can control our behavior. When we abstain from sex, we should actually be the master of thoughts and the master of desires.

Many people know to quit sex and be vigilant. I ask you, how to improve? How to do it specifically? Those who can answer this question can already quit until the stable period. What you say is to understand is just knowing the concept, but when it comes to specific operations, there is not much difference between you and don’t understand it.

Being vigilant means being clear about what circumstances or state you are prone to breaking your precepts, and then when you tend to slide to that state, quickly realize and pull yourself back. The essence is to keep a state of consciousness awake, which in turn is not easy to be pulled away by thoughts.

So please study hard. Avoid sex and look at actions, not many theories. Practical training is the fundamental way to improve the combat effectiveness of quitting sex. ——fly

Please slow down your reading speed when reading these next experiences. Don’t miss the articles on quitting sex. This is what many predecessors have emphasized.

Generally speaking, breaking the precepts is actually following a specific procedure.Sometimes it's watching huang Or look at the edge of the ball, sometimes it is a fall of evil thoughts, and these two situations should be considered the most frequent occurrence. From these two situations, we can find a rule like this: Huang Yuan temptation (nothing) - evil thoughts appear in the mind - desire appears (physiologically, manifested as a feeling of discomfort) - breaking the precepts. From this program, we can find a way to prevent breaking the precepts. To put it bluntly, it is actually not breaking the precepts. Based on my personal experience of abstinence and learning from my predecessors, I came to this conclusion that when evil thoughts first appeared, there would be no feeling of discomfort, and we can see from the above program that this feeling of discomfort is that **Burning the body is the direct cause of breaking the precepts, so as long as we can break the evil thoughts as soon as we arise, we will not feel uncomfortable, and we will not break the precepts. Some quit friends should have some understanding of this. How to do this? Observe the mind and stop thinking. There is a metaphor that evil thoughts are like fire, which will pop up from time to time. At the beginning, it is a small flame, but at the end it is a raging fire. It is easy to destroy it at the beginning, and you are unscathed. If it has been burned into raging fire, you will solve it. Even if you are not killed, you will be burned to death.

Please do this exercise, close your eyes for a while,Ask yourself: “Look at what my next thought is? ” Stay focused like a cat staring at a mouse hole. This is observing the mind. “Observation means observation, "mind" means thoughts, thoughts, and thinking. "observe the mind", observe one's own thoughts. Another meaning is to do nothing except observe, not do any analysis or judgment, and not even have the idea of "doing nothing except observation". After finding this feeling, use it as much as possible in your life, and ask yourself the question until you don’t need to ask it. When you open your eyes and observe your mind when you are proficient. Just like you observe external objects, look inside your mind.

When your thoughts arise, first observe the mind and observe that thought. Then, when you observe the thoughts, your brain will become empty and create a space without thoughts, that is, a state of no thoughts.To detect that space, that is, to discover that space, and try to focus your attention in that space, this is to stop thinking. To cut off thoughts is to create a space without thoughts to interrupt the thoughts that are generated directly and continuously. The key to grasping that space is abnormal, you must be fast, the space will appear for a short time, and if you are not sure, you will fall into a huge flow of thoughts. You must observe your mind when the thought comes out. It is easiest to solve it at this time. Otherwise, if you follow the thought for a while, the powerful pulling force will pull you in, and it will be difficult for you to come out again. You can practice now.

There are so many operations to observe the mind and stop thinking. At the beginning, you may find that after breaking one thought, another thought comes out, and you find that you have so many thoughts. It doesn’t matter. It’s great that you can do this. Take your time. After all, you have been unconsciously obeying thoughts for so many years, and unconsciously means that you cannot discover them yourself, that is, the person in charge is confused.

The operation of observing the mind and breaking thoughts is actually easier, but it is easy to go astray. Next, let’s talk about some common misunderstandings about observing the mind and breaking thoughts:

（1）Some friends may have this situation. When they notice the thoughts, another thought may appear in their minds: "Observe their own thoughts. ”When he wants to focus on the state of no thought, he will see again in his mind: “Concentrate on space. ”Observing the mind and stopping thoughts is done consciously, not thought out. We practice observing the mind and breaking thoughts to make ourselves from a state of thinking to a state of not thinking, rather than from one state of thinking to another state of thinking. Observing the mind and stopping thoughts is the button to stop thinking.

（2）Some quit friends will have this situation. Practicing observing the mind and breaking the mind makes their brains nervous and even painful. This situation is that there is no distinction between "force" and "intention". Close your eyes and answer the question: “How do you know the existence of your hand without moving your hand? ”Don't think about this question, but express the answer. This is the meaning. The muscles of the hand are exerting force, this is strength. To observe the mind and stop thinking is to use intention rather than force. Meaning means consciousness.

（3）When observing the mind and stopping thoughts, don’t resist some friends who know the concept of the inner demon and understand that they have become like this, and they are all "harmful" by the inner demon. Then when they stop thinking, they want to kill their thoughts, or when some friends who understand that they follow evil thoughts will break the precepts, they are very afraid of thoughts. These two situations are actually when they stop thinking, and they have another thought. This is equivalent to using oil to extinguish the fire. When we stop thinking, we should not resist thoughts (not to obey, otherwise we will fall into another misunderstanding). Both situations are resisting, just looking at it, and do nothing except observing. In this way, when you focus your attention, you will cut off the flow of thoughts.

（4）Some friends also have this situation and have already observed the mind completely according to the requirements, but why does the thoughts not disappear, but the more you observe, the clearer it will appear. This situation is because you do not grasp the space generated after observing the mind in time, which leads to you focusing on your thoughts. Isn’t you just following the thoughts? Therefore, you must grasp the thoughtless space that appears after observing the mind, so that you can eliminate every thought and dominate the heart.

When you do anything,Keep some attention to your thoughts andBreak it so you can really control yourself.For example, when the idea of wanting to play with your phone comes out in your mind, you must detect it the moment the thought appears and cut it off, so that this idea will not control you, and the same is true for abstinence, and evil thoughts will be cut off together. In this way, you can do what you really want to do, and you will realize that the thought is not your own thought, but your brain repeats your past behavior Way.

To truly quit bad habits and cultivate good habits is to make a fuss about your thoughts and actions.The real change comes from this, otherwise you will keep repeating the past. The same things, the same mistakes will always appear in your life. Then when you practice observing the mind and breaking thoughts to a certain extent, and keeping a state of not being distracted by thoughts in normal times, you are integrating observing the mind and breaking thoughts into life. Observing the mind and breaking thoughts must be fast (the top priority). When the thought is about to arise and not yet formed, you must notice it and break it (it must be broken). As long as one second later, you will be controlled by thoughts. This requires constant practice.

Recommended reading "The Power of the Current", "New World: The Awakening of Spirituality" (also the reading order I personally recommend), and the authors are Eckhart Toley. (The Power of the Current" recommended by Cao Zhi, and the words are more beautiful).

Observing the mind and stopping thoughts is the core of abstaining from sex, but thisThe core is relative to other methods of the sex system, and there is no other method such asstudyhabitAvoid sex, do good and eliminate evil, read books, maintain health, etc., and cannot exert great power by observing the mind and stopping thoughts. To abstain from sex, you still have to rely on the entire abstain from sex.

I don't like to turn simple things intocomplex. As long as you grasp the core, you can succeed. The more other things you know, the useless it is. Whether it is to abstain from sex or to recover, it depends on your true self.

I would like to pay tribute to all those who are desperate to abstain from sex but are desperate!