Zeng Guofan met countless villains in his life, and responded easily in three ways to make the other party obey orders

In life, when we interact with people, we will more or less meet some villains. The villain is petty, cunning and evil, and always makes people feel unhappy, especially some irritable friends who often have conflicts with the villain, which eventually gets exhausted and even lose both sides.

Of course, no one is perfect. Everyone has different personalities and different ways of dating. Zeng Guofan, a famous official, a great scholar and commander of the Hunan Army, has been in the career of the Jinshi exam, and has encountered countless villains in his life. At the beginning, he was also very annoyed by the villains who plotted against him, but there were too many villains and few open and honest people. In order to deal with villains, he summarized three methods through long-term practice, which not only can easily deal with villains around him, but also can make the other party obey orders and use them for my own use.

In the final analysis, Zeng Guofan’s three methods are to understand the three psychological changes of villains. Below, we will give detailed answers based on how Zeng Guofan deals with villains.

The first method: villains also have self-esteem and have to take good care of villains' face

Although villains are difficult to deal with, they are very good at face. More importantly, a villain has a very strong grudge. If he is not careful, he will make the other person hold a grudge and fight you everywhere.

After knowing this psychological change of villains, it is not difficult to deal with.

Let’s first take a look at a case of Zeng Guofan’s dealing with villains:

When Zeng Guofan was working in the Hanlin Academy, his boss, the Hanlin Academy lecturer, Lord Zhao, was a complete villain.

Lord Zhao is also a literati with outstanding knowledge, but he is determined to make money through power. Therefore, he is not enthusiastic about work, especially likes to blackmail subordinates and ask everyone to give him money. But Zeng Guofan was a poor man who lived on loan sharks at that time. How could he have money to curry favor with his boss? Therefore, Zeng Guofan refused to attend various banquets held by Lord Zhao marrying a concubine, moving a new home, etc.

This made Lord Zhao very angry and felt that Zeng Guofan was a person who looked down on him, so he simply found a reason to dismiss Zeng Guofan.

However, Emperor Daoguang of Zeng was very appreciative of Zeng Guofan's literary talent. Six months after he was dismissed from office, he promoted him to a lecturer in the Hanlin Academy, making Lord Zhao his subordinate.

Villains often have strong jealousy. After seeing Zeng Guofan being dismissed by him, he not only failed to get out of the capital, but also turned into his superior. A jealousy rose from his heart. Not only did he not listen to Zeng Guofan's command and arrangements, but he also went everywhere to sue him for his evil behavior.

Zeng Guofan just took office, but he didn't want his future to be ruined by a villain. So I thought of a way to inspire Lord Zhao’s self-esteem and take care of his face.

Zeng Guofan, who is well versed in psychological manipulation, asked Lord Zhao to give himself any advice in his work, and he always asked very sincerely: "Mr. Zhao, you have worked in the Hanlin Academy for many years and are our old seniors. This matter must be done well. We are not at this level. ”

Zeng Guofan's words and actions made Lord Zhao feel that his face was bright and his self-esteem was satisfied enough. His dislike for Zeng Guofan gradually disappeared, and he eventually became a very active person and his capable general.

The second method: increase the value of a villain and don't compete with each other

Villains often have a characteristic, which is that they like to add insults and always think that they are the most powerful person.

Let's continue to look at Zeng Guofan's case:

When Zeng Guofan was 37 years old, due to his outstanding achievements and strong ability to do things, he was soon promoted to the second-rank cabinet bachelor and deputy minister of the Ministry of Rites by the court. Zeng Guofan was envied by many people when he became a minister of the court at a young age. But Emperor Daoguang admired Zeng Guofan very much at that time, and no one dared to attack him.

But in the 30th year of Daoguang (1850 AD), the 40-year-old Zeng Guofan was severely hit by the villain. In this year, Emperor Daoguang passed away and Emperor Xianfeng succeeded to the throne.

After the new emperor took office, he naturally had to promote his confidant. Among them, many people wanted to drive Zeng Guofan out of the position of a second-rank high-ranking official.

When Zeng Guofan saw the new emperor take office, he also wanted to do a great cause. Therefore, in the case of bandit chaos such as Hong Xiuquan in Guangxi, he believed that the biggest reason was that local officials and officials of the Ministry of Justice were caused by improper handling, and local officials and officials of the Ministry of Justice should be severely punished.

Unexpectedly, Emperor Xianfeng was a confused emperor. He understood that Zeng Guofan was teaching him how to be a good emperor. He was furious and imprisoned Zeng Guofan in the prison of the Ministry of Justice.

Logically speaking, although Zeng Guofan was imprisoned, his official position was not dismissed and he could not be tortured. But He Guiqing, the Minister of Justice, has always been jealous of Zeng Guofan's talent. In addition, he openly said bad things about the Ministry of Justice in the court and held a grudge. He decided to take this opportunity to put Zeng Guofan to death.

Therefore, under He Guiqing's planning, he instructed his subordinates to punish Zeng Guofan.

How could Zeng Guofan, a scholar, suffer such torture, fall into a coma after being tortured several times. Fortunately, Prince Gong and others at that time felt that Zeng Guofan was a person who was devoted to the public and tried his best to protect him, so that Zeng Guofan was protected. Not only did he continue to serve as the Minister of Rites, but he also appointed him as the Minister of War.

This made He Guiqing and others feel incredible. Not only did he fail to kill Zeng Guofan, but he also made him more powerful. So he hurriedly apologized to Zeng Guofan.

Zeng Guofan was beaten so hard that he could not move. Although he was angry, he thought about it again. As a villain who likes to take advantage of the situation, He Guiqing would not be able to be in a downturn in the future. He endured the pain, forgave the other party, and said, "This is the emperor's will. You just obey the order and don't blame yourself. ”

He Guiqing finally breathed a sigh of relief. Zeng Guofan also avoided head-on conflicts with villains by raising the other party's value and not competing with the other party.

Of course, just that, the villain cannot be completely surrendered. There must be a third method.