“When you make serious choices and give up suffering and happiness, you will be like that of yourself”: It is the same whether from the perspective of the world or from the world. Whatever you are, what others are like. You don’t want to suffer, and others don’t want to suffer. You want to be happy, and others want to be happy too. In Buddhism, especially the "self-other exchange" mentioned in Mahayana Buddhism, this also means that it is to put yourself in the position of others and think about others in your own position.
From a worldly perspective, only thinking from the perspective of others (No matter what you think, what he thinks too )，Only then will it be fair and just, and it would not have been possible before. Because we all have the difference between "I" and "him", "I" and "my", "him" and "him", and then we develop resentment. If this view is particularly strong and this habit is particularly serious, it is impossible to be fair and just. You think you are fair and just, but in fact you are definitely not fair and just, because you have been lost by the troubles of greed and resentment, and you have no ability to distinguish or make choices at all. What should we do at this time? We should distinguish the choices based on the facts and the correct reasons. You cannot make a choice based on this "me" and "mine". If you have a strong self-esteem and love, it is difficult to be fair and just. If there is "me" and "mine", there is "his" and "his", which will lead to hatred and it will be difficult to be fair and just.
To be fair and just, we must think from the perspective of others. When changing oneself and others, you should think this way: I want to be happy, and I hope my relatives and friends can also be happy. Similarly, others must also want to be happy, and hope that their relatives and friends can be happy. I don’t want to suffer, and I hope that my relatives and friends will not suffer; similarly, others will definitely not want to suffer, and I hope that his relatives or friends will not suffer, too... I should think from the perspective of others.
However, now we only hope that ourselves and our relatives and friends must be happy and victorious; we will ignore what others do. If you are happy and victorious, others will fail and suffer. Can't think so!
At this time, you should look at the facts and there will definitely be reasons. Which reason is more correct and reliable, and use this to distinguish the choices.
From the perspective of Buddhism, we should think in this way. You must be from the perspective of others, consider others' positions, and think about others. Especially from the perspective of raising bodhicitta, we must consider the feelings of others and the interests of others.
Only by thinking from the perspective of others can we achieve fairness and justice and truly become an upright person.
Excerpted from the Lecture 14 of "Two Rules and Teachings" by Khenpo Dazhen
