How can lay Buddhists be harmonious with their families?

Buddha answered 2024-02-16 02:14

Spirit

Feelings refer to parents, couples, sisters, brothers, children, etc., which are all related to family affection.The so-called three sufferings in life are that there are no parents in a young age, no spouse in middle age, no children in old age, and brothers and sisters.If there is any emotional loss in any aspect or the relationship breaks down, it will lead to mental blows and trauma.

1、emotion

(1)To build feelings and make the spirit full, there are the following methods: a pair of parents should be filial, and filial piety is filial piety, and they should provide material and physical needs;To obey means to obey, and everything is not against your parents' intention.

There are some examples of the 24 filial piety, such as "Ding Lan carved wood". After Ding Lan lost her parents, carved wood as an image, and regarded it as if it was when she was alive.Another example is "Mengzong's artifact bamboo". Mengzong's old mother was sick and thought of bamboo shoots and cooked porridge in winter. Mengzong was in the bamboo forest, hugging the bamboo and crying. His filial piety moved the sky, and several stems of bamboo shoots emerged.Another example is "Five Ancestors Lying Carp". The stepmother wants to eat fresh fish, but it is cold and the earth is frozen. Five Ancestors Lying on ice and ask for carp, and the two carp jump out.There is also "Laocai Opera". Laocai is over 70 years old and dare not call him old in front of his parents. He also performs baby opera to entertain his parents.

The stories told by the Twenty-Four Filial Piety are all about children who use various methods to be filial to their parents.In any case, these are just worldly filial piety. Master Lianchi said: "Only one can achieve success if one is free from dust and dirt, one can achieve one's own Taoism." True filial piety means one's own Taoism.We should keep a simple and chant the Buddha's name, do more good deeds, help others and be happy, and advise parents to believe in Buddha, so that their parents can be free from suffering and achieve the fruit of attainment. This is called true filial piety.

(2)For couples, they should be sincere in comparison. Sincerity means not hypocrisy. Don’t hide anything, so as not to cause differences and misunderstandings. Whether it is clear about money or personnel, you must be honest.

(3)As for brothers and sisters, we should give in and help each other and be consistent.

(4)As for children, since childhood, they have cultivated them with moral character, cultivated them with equal importance to morality and wisdom, understood cause and effect, continued the fine traditions of Buddhism, and served the public in the future. This kind of education is more important than wealth, because property is shared by the five families, namely: water, fire, thieves, evil kings and unfilial sons. Even if money is left for their children, they may not cherish it. Giving them a good education is the greatest wealth.

2、Social service

Friends are also indispensable in spirit, and they must be honest with each other.Therefore, it is very important to make good friends and choose good things.

3、entertainment

You should choose meaningful entertainment, such as bad entertainment, such as sensuality, sex, dogs, and horses. It is just a brief anesthesia. You will feel empty afterwards. Don’t waste your time. Use this body to do things that are good for the public and meaningful things. (Such as volunteering, listening to the Dharma, listening to the scriptures, etc. )，It is Dharma joy.

substance

As for material aspects, it refers to daily needs such as clothing, food, housing, and transportation.

The first point we need to pay attention to is "hard work".You must work actively to get what you need.Buddhism talks about cause and effect. Diligence is the cause, and what you get is the result, and the cause and effect are not at all.

The second is "frugality".Frugality is not stingy (If you refuse to give money to others, you will be called stingy;Others' wealth, but if they want it to belong to me, they are called greed )Frugality is to cherish blessings.The life of Buddhists should be simple and simple. In addition, everything should be planned and money should not be spent indiscriminately. It should be done to seek blessings and do things.

The third point to pay attention to is "contentment".The Buddha's Last Teachings says: "The method of contentment is a place where you are rich, happy and peaceful... Those who are kind and wise are poor even if they are rich, while those who are content are rich even if they are poor."The contented person is frugal, but is willing to give, and always enjoys purifying.

To sum up, if you can do the spiritual aspect, six words: loving, tolerant, honesty;There are also six material words: hard work, frugality, and contentment.If everyone imitates these twelve words and does it, it will purify life, have a happy family, be fulfilled and full of joy.

Source: Nanputuo Temple

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