Avoiding sex is not about suppressing yourself but improving yourself

We see that many people have a hard time quitting. For example, if they break the number of days of abstinence that they set, they are extremely upset, as if they have committed something terrible, unforgivable, and even to die. However, some people may not be so upset about deleting pornographic movies. Or, it also takes it for granted to find a girlfriend to live together. Can you see these different mentalities?

What's the problem with us? You must recognize yourself and see the path you are going to take.

Why are you told not to watch bad videos? Because these videos will poison your heart, because when you are young and have only a sense of desire but have no ability to distinguish right from wrong, you are easily pulled into the water. You'll be messed up |Ethics, fanatics |J If you are confused by things that distort human nature, you will become unethical and gradually lose your sense of shame. This road is terrible. Once you get confused by yourself, you will get chaos in society and you will hurt others. In the end, you will fall into the abyss yourself and cannot extricate yourself.

Why aren't you asked for the number of days? The number of days is also a way for you to abstain from sex by yourself in the process of abstinence. Because we know that people will have desires in life. Without desire, this world cannot be endless. It is precisely because of lust that there are descendants. And your own inner desires are innate, how can you completely eliminate them?

But you have to suppress it and force it to stop it. What are the consequences of this? We have already made it clear in previous posts, just like a water fence, you keep blocking it, but one day it will explode.

Therefore, if you rely solely on your passion to block and do not use reasonable methods to guide yourself, the harder and more painful you will be. Because you can't do it at all, and you have to force yourself to do it. Why can't it be done? Your heart has not yet reached that level of tranquility, and your life has not yet been truly actively fulfilled to that level. In the process of restraint, you only have the matter of abstaining from sex. You are very lonely, you have nothing else to enrich yourself, and you have no ideals. So, once you break the precepts, it seems that your whole life is over. Why? You count your life on the number of days. Isn't this ridiculous?

We have said that abstaining from sex is just to clear up an obstacle on your life’s success. How can you use the number of days to determine your success or failure? The abstinence we advocate is not to cultivate a group of people who do not violate the precepts in form.

Look at successful people, they do not say that if they don’t make mistakes for a few years, they are successful. Instead, their mentality is becoming more and more positive and optimistic, their life is more fulfilling, they are willing to do good, and their hearts are gentler. They know that they should stay away from the source of bad things, enrich their lives, and be responsible to their family. Such people are successful people and do not require them to make achievements.

This is a personal ambition and effort, and we only ask you to eliminate bad sources, improve your mentality, strengthen your physical fitness, and face life with a positive and optimistic heart. Face your future lover with a responsible heart, be worthy of yourself and your family.

Therefore, abstaining from sex does not require you to suppress yourself blindly and mindlessly, but to truly improve your character, improve your abilities, and enhance your tolerance. A person who respects women will not easily hurt women, nor will he enjoy possessing the other person's body. In this way, naturally, I won’t lure the girl. Those who do things that are ignorant are naturally unmoral.

I hope you will not become a person who has lost your moral conscience, I hope you can cherish your life, start your own career, be brave to take responsibility, be brave to innovate, and be brave to break through difficulties. It is not that you can count the time all day, nor that you can look at the world with a different perspective.

You, so those who abstain from sex, should calm down and reflect on themselves. During the period when abstaining from sex, have your thoughts become more open-minded, more sensible, more tolerant, more caring, and better health? If there is nothing, it proves that you are in vain.

Reflect on yourself carefully, don’t be dying at any time, it’s not like a man!