Correct insights determine the success or failure of quitting sex!

Feixiang Ring is the main number of good medicine 2022-09-21 12:18

I saw many students repeating X Breaking the precepts, falling into the vicious circle of abstinence, and even having doubts about whether you can abstinence or not. I think this problem is quite serious. Today I will talk to you about the importance of insights on abstinence. X。

We must have a correct view on abstinence. Why is the view particularly important? Because human thoughts are the guide to actions, what kind of insight we have determines what kind of behavior we will take and what results will lead to in the end. Therefore, insights make decisions X The role of this is the first step for us to abstain from sex, so it is particularly important.

Insight refers to the understanding and view of things and principles. The words come from Liu Zongyuan of the Tang Dynasty, "Answering to Yan Houyu and Xiucai's Book of Teachers and Taoism": "The essence of the truth is that both articles are all in the text. My son reads it in detail, but I cannot understand this. ”

So what are your opinions on abstinence? It is our deep understanding of abstinence, Y Desire, Y Some deep understandings of the thoughts. For example, you want to pull S， Then you must first know its geographical location, how to go, what environment and climate there is, what natural conditions are, what things we need to prepare, what clothes and food we need, including the medicines we need during the whole process, etc. These are all essential items.

If you don't understand it, it will be difficult for you to get there smoothly. If we have the right insights, we can be fully prepared, take the right route and easily reach our destination directly. If you go in the wrong direction, you won't reach your destination, for example, go to pull S It should be in the southwest, but you are heading northeast, and others remind you that you are going in the wrong direction, you say it's okay, my car is fine, others say you are walking in the wrong way, you say it's okay, my car runs fast, this is the opposite. If you have a wrong view, you have a wrong direction and you will not get the correct result in the end.

The most important point of insight is human nature X Is it good or evil? There is a saying in "Three Character Classic": When a person is born, X It's true that it's good. X It's pure and kind, X There is no big one in it Y Desire, there are no despicable and dirty ideas or dirty ideas, so we must first solve this understanding, if we have to do this X If you don’t have enough understanding, you won’t be successful.

Because if you think people are XY The book X， Then how can you quit it? It's not easy to quit it. If we think human X It was originally pure, but because of our acquired bad habits, we were affected by bad things and pure our hearts X It's contaminated, causing us to have some XY The thoughts and behaviors of people, since they talk about human nature X Not full Y What we desire is only affected by some adverse effects and is contaminated, so we can return to our pure nature through many methods. X， So quit XY。 If you have a firm understanding, it is like having the right route and you can go directly to your destination and succeed.

As quit friends, if we are not sure about human nature X Is it pure or evil? There is no correct thinking and understanding, which leads to a contradictory state in our hearts, that is, on the one hand, we have not seen through it. Y The essence of desire, so we think in our hearts it is very happy and can bring you a sense of happiness.

On the other hand, you force yourself not to look at it, which means you are in a state of self-contradictory, just like walking forward with one foot and walking backward with the other foot. It can also be said that you are unable to move forward, and you will not succeed if you cannot take this step. First of all, we need to solve the problem of understanding, that is, Y The falsehood of desire X。

We can do an analysis, no matter if you like it H It's good to watch bad websites, H It’s also good to have sex pictures. Let’s analyze why you want to see these things. You must have wanted to get something, otherwise you won’t take any behavior, and you won’t do such things, that is, you hope to achieve some kind of satisfaction by watching bad videos.

Let's analyze it. After you read the bad information, you get what you want K Feeling, but have you ever thought about it? K The feeling is actually false and does not exist at all. Maybe some students will say, aren’t you talking lies with your eyes open? It's obvious that I feel it K feel.

If this K The feeling is real, then it will not disappear. Right, a real thing will not change, it will not change, it will not disappear. If it can change, then we will say that it is not a real existence. A classmate left a message on the post bar and said: Since you XY Hear XY The latter one, then why do you still want it XY？ That's the situation he said, XY of K The feeling is not a real existence, it will disappear and be completed in a very short time XY After the behavior of , it no longer exists, so it is changed.

No one will say about you XY Now, yours K Feelings will last for an hour or a year, and this is not true, and many people know K Feeling is a very short process. If it does exist, it will not disappear for a while. If it does exist, then you XY You should be satisfied forever once, and you should no longer feel empty, bored, or dissatisfied. But why do you keep watching H Film and make XY What about the behavior?

It's precisely because of this K Feeling false, so every time XY After the action occurs, you don’t get anything, all you get is emptiness, boredom, and regret, so you keep repeating this evil X Loop, because you have never really got it, so you will never be satisfied, and you will never be satisfied, so you keep doing this XY behavior.

actually XY The essence is that your heart is constantly creating different illusions and deceptions for you, making you feel that you will be satisfied the next time you do this, precisely because it has no real K So you will never get it, which means you will only pursue it continuously because you have not seen it through Y The illusion of desire X。

So I can't get out of this vicious circle, and I keep quitting and taking XY Then he was very regretful and regretful, and then broke the precepts and went to someone to tell him about it, hoping to get comfort in his heart, which is actually very sad. Everyone must pay attention.

Human happiness and happiness do not come from something outside, but from our hearts, and all external things are manifestations of the mind. For example, we think a star may be different X Very beautiful, but from another perspective, you think it's very beautiful X In the eyes of an animal, she has nothing special at all, and in the eyes of kittens and puppies, they don’t think you are a beautiful and handsome guy, and they don’t feel anything at all.

Even in the eyes of some beasts you are just their food, an object they can eat. Then, on the other hand, many beautiful women in the eyes of animals have no feeling in the eyes of us humans. For example, the male monkey thinks that the female monkey is a big beauty, but in our eyes he is just a very ugly monkey. Therefore, the so-called beautiful and handsome guys and some cute things are actually an illusion in our hearts.

After we can understand this principle, we must work hard in our minds. When we encounter this situation, we will think and use some specific methods to think. We will not be fooled so easily. We will take some easily. XY behavior. So thinking is particularly important.

To illustrate this problem, let us give two more examples. The first example is that we used to pull a cart with donkeys in the countryside. In order to keep the donkey moving forward, some owners put a handful of grass in front of it so that it can see but cannot eat it. If it eats greedy, it will keep moving forward.

The second example is that if someone throws a stone at a dog, the dog will pounce on it and chase the stone. If someone throws a stone at a lion, the lion will look at the stone and then pounce on the person who throws the stone. So this is the difference between a fool and a smart person. Therefore, as a wise person, everything will be essentially found and solved from the source, without being led by desire and being confused by some bad ideas. This is the difference between a wise and a fool.

By the same token, all our pain, desires and Y Desire and other things actually come from our inner habits, so we must start from the essence of the problem and solve the problem from the perspective of cultivating the mind, and do not deceive ourselves.

People like all beauty, sound, fragrance, soft touch, etc. very much, and they strive to pursue it desperately. In fact, they cannot solve the fundamental problem. When we enjoy these things, they will not change our hearts. The more we enjoy our greed, the more we will grow. Just like drinking salt water to quench thirst, the more you drink salt water, the thirst you become. It cannot solve the problem of thirst at all, and it is actually uncontrollable.

So no matter we encounter some beautiful strangers X， If we are not cut off, we should learn to give up immediately and cut off the greed that arises in our hearts. We must cut it off. If we do not cut it off, desire has no end. Desire is like a bottomless pit. When you are never satisfied, you will never be satisfied.

Water cannot be buried with water, and fire cannot be extinguished with fire. By the same token, desire cannot be satisfied with desire. It's like some people say quit D Like, I'm sucking a little bit now D To be able to quit D， In fact, this is a kind of self-deception. You cannot use desire to stop it, so it is just a matter of our hearts giving ourselves. XY I still haven't seen through an excuse, or a false trick in our hearts.

There is a saying in a movie that I was particularly impressed by, “Are you satisfied a thousand desires or defeated one desire? ”I hope everyone can think about this sentence. Are you willing to satisfy a thousand desires or defeat one desire? Because when you satisfy a thousand desires, you will still have many desires.

Therefore, desires can never be satisfied, and you can never satisfy your desires. As long as we defeat one desire, it is actually equivalent to defeating all desires, so I hope everyone can think deeply about this sentence. We recognize the falsehood of desire X， We don’t let it be confused, we must eliminate it immediately, this is the smartest way to do it.

Increase our vigilance X， Don't be confused by inner thoughts at all times, when you have some Y When reciting, when you feel bored and want to find some excitement and read some information, you should be vigilant immediately and break it immediately. If you do not break it at this time, you are already on the verge of breaking the precepts, and the next step will lead to your behavior of breaking the precepts.

Although the content I share with you today is very short, I think it is particularly important. If you don’t solve this problem, you won’t succeed in abstaining from sex. At present, there are many people who quit porn, and many volunteers are also helping everyone to quit porn, and they are talking about the harm of quitting porn. However, if you do not have the correct view, you will not be able to get real liberation in the end, and you will not be able to succeed in quitting porn. I hope everyone will pay great attention to these issues, often think about them in their hearts, and think about them every day. Thinking in our hearts every day helps us establish correct insights and thus better abstain from sex.

Last time I said that the essence of abstinence is actually to restore a healthy lifestyle. By establishing correct insights, we can guide our abstinence and practice, so that we can return to the essence and return to the pure nature. X！

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